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BECOMING ONE IN MARRIAGE
 Arba Tucker, AWI Publisher
So they are no longer two, but one.
Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.
Matthew 19:6
You can’t use basic math principles when it comes to marriage. We have been taught that ½+½=1. A marriage that is based on a 50-50 relationship is doomed for failure. God expects us to be a whole person before we join with another in marriage. The scripture doesn’t say “they are no longer halves.”
A whole person is totally capable of taking care of themselves - financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually, etc. Two people should not get together because one has what the other is lacking. That type of relationship will always be dependant. It’s not good for couples to be needy of each other. They should be able to equally enhance each other.
If a person is able to take care of themselves and be happy, they won’t depend on anyone else to fulfill their needs. They also shouldn’t have any reason to try to change each other if they are already complete. People should not loose their individuality when they marry. Each person should have their own ideas, thoughts, creativity, etc.
Only God can make two separate and complete people become one. They should work in one accord towards the same purpose. Accord means to be in agreement or harmony - like two great singers harmonizing a song. Two half-good singers won’t sound good together.
 Many marriages are the result of two people loving each other to fulfill their personal needs. Then if they feel their needs are not being fulfilled, the marriage ends. True love is not a feeling towards each other; it is a choice to love God enough to follow His principles unconditionally. God has a specific purpose for us to fulfill. His plans are perfect and everlasting. Whatever God starts will come to pass. Therefore, when God joins two people together, they cannot be separated.
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