 WHOSE WEDDING IS IT ANYWAY?
This famous reality TV show dives into the hectic lives of preparing for a wedding. The show takes a humorous and candid look at the conflict that is evitable during the wedding process. With everyone’s best intentions playing a part in the preparations, your wedding can quite easily unintentionally become someone else’s. A wedding brings together two family clans who did not know each other, and it involves hundreds of decisions made by different combinations of people who care deeply that everything comes off beautifully. It can seem as if everyone else is taking over the wedding and you can feel decisions that need to be made are slowly slipping away from you. It may well be time for you both to put the brakes on and take control of your big day.
Common areas of conflict during a wedding preparation:
Location, Date and Time, Invitations, Type of Ceremony, Budget, Number of Guests, Attire, Reception Food and Drink, Photographer, Music, Officiant, Cake, and Wedding Party (number and people involved)
Other underlying sources of conflicts between family members:
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Feeling left out.
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You can’t afford what they are asking for.
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One side of the family is being treated unfairly.
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If you don’t do something, you will feel disloyal to someone else.
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Feeling that a person’s needs, wishes and values don’t seem to matter.
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You’re not getting enough credit for the time and money you’re putting into the wedding.
Tips for taking control of your own wedding:
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Remember, it is indeed YOUR wedding. Set and reinforce firm boundaries from the beginning.
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Set your intentions, expectations and clarity of roles of all parties involved. Be consistent and firm and have responsibilities in WRITING.
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Deal with conflicts immediately. Remember, you cannot please everyone. You and your fiancé should be UNITED when resolving conflict.
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Plan some couple time. Spend time together just enjoying each other without discussing the wedding plans.
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Hire a wedding consultant to plan, organize, manage and resolve conflicts.
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FOCUS ON THE LOVE THAT YOU HAVE FOR EACH OTHER!
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