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THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES
Are you and your partner speaking the same language? Did you know that couples speak different love languages? Since people come from different backgrounds, so do their expressions of love. Typically, men and women have very different and distinct ways of expressing their love. Your love language is the way that you most feel loved and cared for. Studies have shown that there are five love languages as listed below. Identify which language most represents you and your partner.
AFFIRMATIONS – With this love language, you feel most loved or cared for when your partner tells you how wonderful you are. Women usually are very touched by this language. People who speak this language respond favorably to words of encouragement, compliments, and other acts of verbal kindness.
GIFTS – Everyone loves gifts, but if receiving gifts really ignites your passion for your partner, then this might be your love language. People who speak this language respond most favorably to gifts and visual symbols of love. Gifts are a TOKEN OF LOVE and can have an extraordinary impact on a relationship.
ACTS OF SERVICE – If your partner is always doing kind things for you such as giving you a break from your daily routines, then acts of service may be his primary love language. Typically, men communicate their love by providing and performing general acts of service. People who speak this language respond positive to favors and things their partner does on their behalf, regardless of the size or significance.
QUALITY TIME – Some people need for their partner to spend quality time with them. It means connecting with your partner so that they know that you are there for them. It is a time when you listen attentively and discuss things that are important to you as a couple. People who speak this language have a strong desire to spend lots of quality time with their partner.
PHYSICAL TOUCH – This love language encompasses all kinds of touch, from hugs to kisses and more. Physical contact can be its’ own form of communication. If this is your love language, you need for your partner to realize what kinds of physical touch you desire, like holding hands in public or getting a special massage.
Lack of communication is one of the major reasons for divorce. By identifying and understanding your partner’s love language, you can experience a higher level of communication as a couple. HERE’S TO LOVE!
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By Constance Lane Arnold, M.A., LPC