Role Models for a Godly Marriage

It’s dangerous for a woman to marry a man who doesn’t know God, because she won’t know where he’s taking her. Even if he does know God, he needs to learn to live in God’s presence, because some men who know Him don’t talk to Him enough. No man has the right to lead a woman if he doesn’t have the ability to truly hear God. “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (Prov. 29:18).

This is a serious matter. It means that a male cannot ask a female to follow and help him if he isn’t really doing anything. Where is she supposed to be going? What is she supposed to help him with? The woman is looking for somebody who is doing something to which she can contribute. All the potential, all the energy, all the excitement, and all the creativity within her has to be applied to something. There are many women who have skills and abilities, but men aren’t doing anything they can help with. Some women wait for weeks, months, even years with latent skills, eager to help fathers, husbands, friends, employers - to no avail. The resulting lack of direction can sometimes make women vulnerable to making mistakes. A woman needs to have direction and be involved in meaningful activity in order to fulfill her purpose.

The man wasn’t meant to fulfill the vision himself. God created the woman to enable the man to accomplish the purpose for which they were both created. Everything the woman has was made to help the male. All her abilities were designed for his vision. Therefore, the woman’s purpose cannot be truly fulfilled without the man’s purpose - and vice versa. God has special plans for each woman’s gifts and talents. Yet because of the way he designed humanity, a woman needs a man who has vision in order for all her purposes to be fulfilled. This applies not only to marriage but also to the church and the workplace. Ministers, employers, and others in leadership positions need to provide vision for those whom they are leading. Otherwise, the things they and their followers are involved in doing will lack meaning and be unfulfilling.