When you are preparing your guest list it can be hard to decide whom and whom not to invite - particularly when it is a family member. If someone finds out that they were not invited, it becomes very easy for them to make your life difficult. However, there are ways to avoid such an awkward situation.
CONSIDER TWO POSSIBLE SCENARIOS:
Have An Explanation In Mind
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When you make your guest list, keep in mind the people who are not invited. You do not want to let them know about a wedding to which they are deliberately not invited. Remember that the word can get out, or you might let it slip in conversation. It may help to keep an explanation in mind, in case you get caught off guard.
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If you have to do more explaining, keep certain aspects of the wedding in mind. Limited space, money, food, or other necessities should be taken into consideration. Explain that there are no hard feelings, but due to budget constraints the guest list was limited.
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Be tactful, but firm! After all, this is your wedding and you should invite only those people which are most important to you. Please do not ever feel obligated to invite everyone to your wedding.
Consider Using A Guest RSVP Service
Guest response services have grown in popularity over the past decade because of the cost saving benefit and the modern approach to managing RSVP responses. Couples can remain stress-free while being ensured they will receive an accurate guest count for the wedding reception. The best benefit to the couple is that it will save time and money by not using the traditional response cards, which are normally thrown away or lost.
It has been proven that 40-60% of guests do not respond to traditional RSVP cards. Guests have a million reasons why they don't respond. Usually it's something like “Oh she knows I'll be there", or "I didn't think I had to respond if I wasn't coming". Then there are the guests who don't think that “bringing their children” or "a couple of extra people" will be a problem! Unfortunately, when these scenarios are multiplied over and over, it quickly becomes a MAJOR problem! Guest response services can eliminate the terrible embarrassment of not having enough food or seating because of unexpected guests.
HOW TO AVOID