 Who Should You Invite
to Your Wedding?
You’re getting married and creating your guest list; which is out of control. Your future Mother-in-law is upset because she feels cheated on the number of guests she can invite. What should you do?
Sit down with your family and future in-laws. Make a list of everyone you can think of to invite. Once you have your list, use the “One Year Rule.” If you have not communicated (phone, e-mail, letters, etc.) with this person in one year, put them on your “B” list. Don’t feel obligated to invite someone to your wedding because they invited you to theirs.
Make sure your guest list is divided equally between the two families. What I advise my brides to do is divide the guest list into fourths. A list of 200 guests should be divided 50 to the parents of the bride, 50 to the parents of the groom, 50 to the groom and 50 to the bride. Each guest list should consist of an “A” list and a “B” list. The “A” list should consist of people you must invite. You can only send an invitation from the “B” list when your “A” responses are regrets. After you have your final “A” and “B” lists, give both sets of parents a few additional invitations to send to whomever they want.
Address the invitations to the person you intend to invite. For example, if cousin Karen is not in a serious relationship, there is no need to put “and guest” on the invitation. If you do not socialize with your coworkers after work, do not invite them to your wedding. Children at a reception can be very costly. To make your guests aware that your reception is for adults, put “Adult Only Reception” on your response cards.
Following these simple suggestions should make assembling your guest list a lot less stressful and keep the fun and happy feelings in this joyous event.
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